Eight colleges: Princeton, Yale, Brown, Williams, Amherst, Middlebury,
Dartmouth, Columbia. Visited, one after another, boom-boom-boom, during a two-week, 2800-mile trek to the East Coast.
Probably not the typical American summer vacation. Not exactly Disney World.
But we are odd ducks, we Steinbergs. We liked it.
We went to kick the tires of
prospective schools for the oldest boy, the 17-year-old incoming senior — a
“rising senior” I’ve learned to say, just one of many details of the academic
world gleaned on the trip, from the proper pronunciation of Amherst — “Amerst,”
no “h,” who knew? — to the fact that Middlebury has its own private ski slope, to the full name of Columbia University, “Columbia
University in the City of New York,” which made me reflect on the economic,
almost beautiful concision of “University of Chicago.”
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| Nassau Hall -- Princeton |
The older lad picked the colleges.
His brother, 16, gamely tagged along. My wife plotted the itinerary and found good hotels. My input, other than genes in the mid-1990s and resisting the urge to constantly quote Robert Browning’s line “a man’s reach should
exceed his grasp or what’s a heaven for?” was to insist there be some pure
vacation stuff tucked in as well, between the tours, lest we go mad. Thus three
days in a mountain cabin in Vermont, plus a couple days at the seashore in
Massachusetts. I also drove most of the way.
Prospective student tours are a big deal to colleges. Tens of thousands
of potential customers beating a path to your place of business, begging to be
impressed, fighting for the chance to give you money. It's an opportunity to be seized upon, even though only a fraction of the visitors — a handful in a hundred — will end up attending.
As
a guy in the communications biz, I was interested in how the schools met this challenge, how they presented
themselves. Some were first rate. Some did a surprisingly cack-handed job of
it. We attended an information session and a tour at each of the eight — tag
team affairs where an official from the admissions office would talk up the
school, or try to, then a student would lead a tour, though sometimes students
were warm-up acts for the official, or even joined in the discussion.
Princeton has the loveliest campus —
sedate, beautiful, historic. Just strolling around lures you into the dream of
luxury, of perfection. “I wish there were some animals, such as peacocks,” my
older son actually said, as if he were landscaping Heaven. The town of Princeton
adjacent to campus has the feel of an old money resort. The jeweler where I went at lunchtime to get a battery for my watch waved away my offer of payment, perhaps out of kindness,
perhaps out of the charmed notion that I might return and buy a Patek Philippe or —
my suspicion — perhaps because they do not traffic in trifles.
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| Yale |
The Princeton info session took place in a vast science lecture hall, with a vaulted ceiling and old wooden desks, a complex, two story blackboard with giant, mysterious antique gauges above it, as if Michael Faraday had just stepped away for a beaker of benzene. The session, run by an assistant dean of admissions, was brisk, polished and without a false note.
Afterward, our guide, Christine, a confident Californian sophomore, reminded me how out-of-touch with youth culture I have become.
None of the bands or celebrities she mentioned attempting to impress us sparked even the faintest flicker of recognition with me — they could have been made up. It all sounded like, We had concerts by Woodburning Set, Dingus and the Feathered Friends last
year. Plus Peter Piper filmed his last movie, "Delirium Tremens" here. That
happened at nearly every tour.
The Princeton campus is wired for wi-fi, of course, and one has to
wonder how much the traditional academic trimmings are mere backdrop. In
praising the library, our guide said, “I like to touch 19th century books
because they’re cool.” And here she paused, musing. “I don’t do anything, I just touch
them and move on with my life.” No one hissed.
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| Sterling Library -- Yale |
If
Princeton felt somehow delicate and colonial, Yale had a more solid, medieval
cathedral feel, even though those Gothic edifices usually turned out to be dorm
bell towers and dining halls. The younger boy and I ducked out of the info
session to explore New Haven’s city cemetery, where we found the graves of Glen
Miller and Charles Goodyear. We returned for the tour. Our spunky North Carolina guide kept being interrupted by gas mowers and heavy machinery — lots of summer landscaping and construction at these cash-washed universities.
Then we went to Brown. “Is this the college? No!” my older son said, aghast, after we parked at the periphery of
campus, something of a hodgepodge after Princeton and Yale. Sitting, waiting
for the information session to begin, I pointed to a brochure calling Brown “a microcosm
of architectural styles.” The bright spin. “PR 101,” I told my wife. “Try to
turn your flaw into an attribute.”
The Brown admissions official — I
should shield her name, lest I inadvertently add to the ranks of the unemployed — began her talk
by introducing herself with these words: “I love cloudy weather, rainy days and
my favorite animal is the baby penguin.” I wish I could say she was being
ironic, but she wasn’t. After Princeton and Yale’s sharp presentations, it was
like stepping from a fancy restaurant to a child’s lemonade stand. Helping her
not at all was a student who spoke so fast he could hardly articulate words.
“Like an auctioneer,” I jotted in my notebook and showed my wife, who nodded
grimly. “Eighty percent of Brown students go to graduate school,” the official
said. “The other 20 percent become admissions officers.” That wasn’t quite:
“Don’t get a degree from Brown because it’s practically worthless.” But it sure came close. (Note to proud Brown alumni: don't blame me for telling you. I'm not saying the school isn't a fine one — it may very well be. Just that the presenters didn't manage to convey it, at least not to us).
In fact, the duo did such a thorough job of undermining any interest in Brown we might have had that, when their effort came to an end, we all stood up, looked at each other and mutually agreed to skip the tour and just hurry to Amherst. At the last moment, my
oldest son said, “Well, we’re here already,” and we reversed course and joined a tour. We were glad we
did, because the guide, an enthusiastic young man from Mexico City (“Daniel,
like the girl’s name,” he said, pronouncing it “Danielle”) did much to
repair the battered reputation of the school, earnestly explaining how he had found his
home at Brown. He radiated energy, though didn’t keep Brown from sinking to the bottom of the list and staying there.
We made it to Amherst late, though in time for most of their last session of the day, guided —practically passed hand-over-hand — to the proper place by helpful students. Arriving at an intense disquisition in a spare, white meeting room, flanked by balconies, I felt like we had barged in a 1650 Pilgrim chapel. I kept wishing this serious conversation could be projected
on a split screen to the assembled Brown community, alongside their own clownish
performance, as penance. “We have
the resources to support your creative and intellectual endeavors,” the Amherst
official said.
Amherst is nestled in mountains. Our Amherst guide took great pride in walking backwards, and swung mightily for the home team. "Liberal arts does not mean unemployed," she said. She was also the only guide to stress a school's anti-substance abuse policy, including substance-free dorms (all dorms are theoretically drug free, but the designated substance-free dorms really mean it, apparently).
Alas, like many guides, she didn't have the whole talking-to-people thing down, and used the word "actually" in every other sentence, as an intensifier. "There's a reason why we love our alumni," she said. "Roughly 50 percent of all our alumni are actually active. Regardless of whether or not you are formally on financial aid, your education is actually subsidized by $20,000. That's because of our large endowment here. We are actually going to see their presence through our alumni database. When it comes to our alumni, we actually have their information on a data base...."
The word became like a ball peen
hammer tapping on the base of my skull, but my family afterward said they
didn’t notice it, so maybe it was just me.
Williams offered perhaps the most impressive spiel, the admissions officer — a
canny vet, a few weeks from retirement — who asked students to identify
themselves and talk about the reasons they are interested in Williams, then seamlessly
wove their expectations into a presentation that covered all aspects of the school.
At Williams, you could clearly see the tension between the parents’
interest — that their kids' expensive education would lead to a career of sorts,
eventually — and the undergraduate imperative for fun. Williams has a system where
you can hop off the study treadmill to pursue personal passions, and the examples given were: stone
masonry, cheese-making, exploring surfer culture and a jaunt to Burgundy to learn winemaking, which I’m sure was loads of fun. Why you need a pricey college to master cheese making is another question.
Of
the eight schools, Dartmouth was the only one I had visited previously — Rolling
Stone sent me there 20 years ago to do a story about a new way students
communicated with one another, using a computerized message system called email,
which became so popular some students weren’t even having phones installed in their
dorms. I had expected the students to delight in the big shot magazine’s attention,
but found them surly, unhappy that Rolling Stone had recently done a profile on
the Dartmouth frat that inspired the film “Animal House” and was, apparently,
inspiring it still.
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| Dartmouth |
None of this I mentioned, not wanting to affect my son’s search process
with decades-old biases. And indeed, the associate director of administrations,
Katie Madden, was as far from Dean Wormer as imaginable: easily the best of
the eight, smartly explaining Dartmouth as part of a sharp, well-ordered career strategy
that —and I’m exaggerating here only slightly — starts with excelling in high
school and ends with winning the Nobel Prize in Medicine. She could easily be cast in the
next big budget action thriller as the Secretary of Defense, briefing the
president about the unfolding crisis with coolness and precision. Rather than any rambling, I-like-clouds digression,
she gave an organized talk, explaining the three aspects to Dartmouth she was going to
emphasize — “access, flexibility and engagement” Madden was also the only one of the eight to use real student examples, Dartmouth students she named who were patenting medical devices and
forming their own companies and teaching African villages to use foot pump
nebulizers.
“The world is their classroom,” she said. “There are no boundaries to
the experience you can have.” Those
people at Brown, I kept saying to myself, ought to be ashamed.
After that, I
was ready for my boy to go all out for Dartmouth. Then came the tour. Our guide
had lived in London and Tokyo and Singapore and did, generally, an excellent job of pointing out the locations on campus. He also delved into the realm I
had been reluctant to mention. “Everybody drinks under age,” he said,
explaining that this is a major reason for fraternities, which — and he didn’t
use these exact words, but this was the essence of his meaning — beside their continual charitable work, are basically temperance organizations designed to minimize the harm that comes from campus drinking
by providing controlled settings for it to occur under the close supervision of
responsible individuals. “Our parties serve really diluted beer,” he said,
noting that 70 percent of the student body at Dartmouth join a frat or sorority,
prompting my boy, who had researched all these schools down to the last detail,
to ask his first question of the trip: “Would you comment on Dartmouth’s unofficial mascot being Keggy the Keg?” To which our guide replied, in essence, “umm.”
The last school was Columbia, on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. As my boy bounded up to the desk to give his name to admissions clerk, I couldn’t help but think of his
great-grandfather, Sam Steinberg, painting billboards in the Bronx in the
1920s, in his coveralls and painter’s cap, lugging around his buckets of
whitewash. What would he think about his great-grandson even having a shot to go
to Columbia? Proud, I hope. I sure was. In fact, I was what my people call verklempt.
That quickly passed. Before
the administrator showed up, Matt, a perky Columbia student — trim, mod
eyeglasses, maroon v-neck, perfect pompadour — gave a presentation that was
almost a performance piece, like one of the monologues from “A Chorus
Line.” Much of the appeal of
Columbia, apparently, involves Hollywood stars joining your
a capella group and
seeing Daniel Radcliffe — whose name I at least recognized — shoot a movie scene on campus.
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| Columbia |
Still, he was sprightly and sincere — so sincere I wished his remarks, too,
could be recorded and saved. Not to shame Brown, but so Matt, who no doubt
will make a fine professional someday, could be shown it in 20 years time, to
his certain horror. Asked his
favorite class, he replied “salsa and reggae dancing” and praised a student
club called “Feel Good.”
“They make grilled cheese and then just bring it to you,” he said. And to think Columbia only charges $60,000 a year to attend.
He was relieved at last by a grown-up, James Minter, the director of
international admissions, a robust, mustachioed man in a blue polo who had a
calm, steady demeanor that I liked very much. He was like someone from the Army
Corps of Engineers sent to explain how Columbia University would build a bridge
to your future life. “Argument is what we do here,” he said, detailing the core
curriculum of classics, and I looked over at my boy, to whom argument comes as
naturally as breath. Minter spoke about himself, but in a sophisticated fashion. He
was born in Georgia, he said, and was asked: did not moving to New York City seem
a cultural shock?
“For me, the culture shock was birth,” he said. “Coming to New York was
correcting the mistake.” By the time he was done, the audience was leaning forward, breathless, its collective heart pinned on Columbia. Or, again, maybe it was just me.
Regarding my older boy's impressions, he's a very close-to-the-vest lad. Let's just say, not Brown. Applying to high end colleges is the rare situation in American life where it's unarguably far better to be a rural black child or a Navajo. Bright middle class suburban Jewish kids are a dime a dozen, and need to bring clean drinking water to an African village or figure out something clever in their essays or snag a bit of luck to get themselves snatched from the slurry. We had managed to boost our prominent noses over the cliff's lip and were staring at the Promised Land of upper crust academic success. But whether my hard-working kid could claw his way that last mile, to an actual spot under one of those majestic oaks, is another matter. We didn't dwell on it.
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| Morgan Library -- New York |
The younger boy is
into celebrity food television, so as a reward for his preternatural patience, we let him pick the restaurant in New
York to go to after it was all over, and he chose Marcus Samuelsson's Red Rooster, at 125th
and Lenox, where we had a glorious Southern feast, outdoors on a beautiful summer day, watching the
lively Harlem streetscape stroll by. Which made me think that Tolstoy was wrong
when he said that all happy families are alike. Each happy family is happy in its own idiosyncratic way. At least ours is, happy just to seek, to explore, to learn, to try. A bit of success would be nice, too, but we aren't expecting promises.
After lunch, while the older boy headed
uptown with his mother to huddle with a Columbia neurological researcher and
tour her lab, my younger son and I slipped downtown to have some fun, and visit
the Morgan Library. That would not be considered fun
for every 16-year-old, nor for every dad, but it was thrilling for the both
of us, and we spent a long time studying the treasures that old Pierpont Morgan
had hoovered up from Europe. Next
year, we will visit the colleges my younger son is interested in, and while he
has only mentioned one so far—the University of Glasgow, because it was founded
in 1451—I told him that people have gone to colleges for worse reasons, and that
we stand poised to hie ourselves to Scotland and check it out, should he so desire.
So where did he end up going? To find out, click here.
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| Columbia University |
