Tuesday, March 7, 2023

Flashback 2010: It's time for 'retard' to go

Porgy at the Lyric Opera
     Sunday's Chicago Polar Plunge had a record haul — some $2 million — for the Special Olympics. As someone with an eye on language, I find myself idly wondering whether "special," which can veer toward an insult on junior high school playgrounds, will someday be dropped in favor of a more positive word. I weighed in on the subject 13 years ago, when the Special Olympics took aim at "retarded," a word that, sadly, is still very much in use.

     Last season, when the Lyric Opera put on "Porgy and Bess," two aspects fascinated me.
     The first aspect was racial. Great music composed by a white Jewish guy, sung by an all-black cast. Art, but filled with odious stereotypes.
     The second involves disability. Porgy is "a cripple." Originally, he pushed himself around on stage in a goat cart. But times change — now he hobbles on a crutch.
     When lyricist Ira Gershwin updated the opera in 1952, a certain derogatory term for blacks was cut. "Cripple" could stay. In a column, I tried to specify which racial slur got axed, and an editor expunged it.
     Which bothered me — I differentiate between a word hurled on a playground or from a stage and explaining exactly which term has been cut. But I also understand that such matters are highly sensitive. We used hyphens instead.
     Which brings up the word "retarded." The Special Olympics is pushing on to scrub "retarded" from the language. As if on cue, the cartoon "Family Guy" featured Ellen, a character with Down syndrome, provoking Sarah Palin's well-exercised sense of victimization.
     While I differentiate between art and life — I don't believe children live in a better world if we bowdlerize Huck Finn — there is also crossover between the two realms. If "Family Guy" has fun with Down syndrome, then certain viewers might feel entitled to do the same.


     I don't like to equivocate. My gut instinct is against sanitizing culture — it can be counterproductive, even laughable. Will it really be progress when Bess sings, "He's a disabled indee-vidual an' he needs mah love"? I don't see it.
     The actress who plays Ellen on "Family Guy" is Andrea Fay Friedman. She has Down syndrome and she thinks her role is funny. Isn't it the worst kind of paternalism to, in effect, try to get her fired because Sarah Palin is uncomfortable with seeing the subject she milks for sympathy being treated as a source of humor? People are either full adults out in the real world, or they're a special victim class who need coddling, and it's disingenuous to push for one and then, when they do something you don't like, invoke the other.
     And yet. Were developmentally disabled people secure in the mainstream alongside the Irish and accountants, we could happily debate the cultural desirability of mocking them. But given that recognizing their full humanity is a fairly recent development, it seems that we should at least acknowledge that ridicule, though funny in entertainment, is destructive on a personal level.
     The issue here is not what Sacha Baron Cohen says in "Borat," but what people say in their own lives, and here, while racial taunts and religious slurs have generally been sent to the woodshed, "retarded" hasn't, and it is time to put that term out to pasture.
     Words change their meaning. When The Association for Retarded Citizens was founded in 1950, it was aiding people who were still called "feeble-minded," not as insults, but officially, as in the "Massachusetts School for Idiotic and Feeble-Minded Youth."
     "Retarded" was a neutral, modern term, then. It isn't anymore, having been twisted into a taunt over 50 years.
     Yes, whatever term replaces it will be equally corrupted eventually — notice the tone of grinning mockery that a junior high school student can invest in the word "special" and you realize this is a footrace between those whose experience makes them sensitive and those fortunate enough not to care, between those who would have an inclusive society and those who would chuckle at its most vulnerable members.
     Sometimes — often — that is the same person. I laughed when Borat mistook "retard" with "retired," and would no sooner see it cut from the movie than I'd rewrite "The Merchant of Venice" to remove the religious references.
     But that doesn't mean we have to cling to our present attitudes. Times change, and so does what is considered funny. In 1950, a child with Down syndrome was a humiliating family stigma. You'd dump that child in an institution and never speak of her again. Progress for people with disabilities paralleled advances in civil rights and feminism — heretofore marginalized groups struggling to reach their full potentials. Humor changed too. "Amos & Andy" isn't funny anymore; maybe someday "Borat" won't be funny, either.
     In 1953, Dale Evans, wife of cowboy star Roy Rogers, penned a book, Angel Unaware, about their daughter Robin, who was born with Down syndrome. Doctors told her to have Robin institutionalized. Instead Evans, inspired by her deep Christian faith, posed the little girl in family publicity photos. The book sold 400,000 copies in the mid-1950s, and parents who otherwise never let their children out of the house felt comfortable bringing them to Roy Rogers rodeos, because of his wife's book.
     They felt safe there.
     I believe that any person with a heart, facing this complex issue, would rather err on the side of those children, would want them, not merely to get out of the house to see a cowboy show, but to also go to school with other kids and work at a job, if they could, still safe and accepted, without their lives being made a hell by would-be wits looking for someone to abuse.
     That's what it boils down to. "Porgy and Bess" is still great, without the offending word. Alas, we lose a convenient butt of jokes — a concern to us satirists. The pool of potential victims does shrink alarmingly. But don't despair — there's always Canadians.
     —Originally published in the Sun-Times, Feb. 22, 2010


  1. It might be interesting to do a piece on the grocery stores' current policy of employing "challenged" individuals as baggers. I had a hard enough time of it myself as a smart fourteen-year-old way back when.


    1. That's a good idea, John. I've had the same thought, though worried that the truth of the situation might not make good copy. Not every customer appreciates being drawn into the baggers' world,while perhaps recognizing that this is not the most generous instinct.

    2. I always try to strike up a conversation with the person bagging my groceries. Some have things they want to talk about, others just smile.

  2. There is a PBS show that we watch, “Call the Midwife” where a couple who own the local store have adopted a young man with Downs Syndrome. The storyline is interesting in that it portrays the young man’s issues as he tries to fit in. The show is set in the 1950’s and 60’s so there are serious hurdles for him as to acceptance, and his efforts to live his life. It’s a smaller part of the show, but well done.

    1. I think most of us need something like that in order to normalize what is otherwise off putting and perhaps unpleasantly laughable.

  3. I'm assuming you have seen the documentary "Crip Camp"? It helped me gain a new perspective, as did your piece today. I'll keep reading, as you will most likely continue to expand my perspective, and at times piss me off, which is good for me Paul T

  4. As a parent of a 50 year old DS daughter who worked for nearly 20 years as a Utility Clerk (bagger) for Dominick’s, who was an early employer of challenged individuals, I could probably have a lot to say on the subject. Mary started at Dominick’s as part of a high school work program and would probably still be at it if she hadn’t begun to exhibit symptoms of Altzheimer’s. She is still working but in a more protected setting at Misericordia, which I know you are more familiar with from pat columns. If you ever did want to do a story, Michael Diaz who is head of their work programs, both on and off campus would be great resource. Also, Dr Brian Ciccoine, long time Director of the Adult Down Syndrome Center at Lutheran General Hospital in Park Ridge could give you his unique perspective on these remarkable individuals.

  5. Both my wife and I have always loved maps. In my kid days, probably the grammar school years, I collected road maps. The Standard gas station about a half mile from my house was my primary source. I had a shoebox full of gas-station highway maps, including the state maps for Illinois, Indiana, and Michigan.

    The layout of those maps hasn't changed much over the years...the entire state is on one side, and maps for the major cities, along with those for the state's smaller cities, are on the other. We still love and use maps. GPS? What's that?

    One day, while studying the layout of one of the smaller Midwestern cities, I noticed the words: "State Home for the Feeble-Minded" on the edge of town, right next to a number of red boxes alongside a major state highway...probably the location of the various institutional buildings.

    Time has erased the memory of what city's map they were on. Might have been in Kankakee. Or Kokomo. Or Kalamazoo. I was no more than ten or eleven years old in the late Fifties. That's now a very long time ago. I dealt with a number of issues as a kid, and in my teens. Some have persisted for a lifetime. And I have never forgotten the chill that I felt after seeing those words on that gas-station map.

    1. My wife just reminded me that I also had memories of a map with a "Home for the Friendless." Not an animal shelter. Probably a county nursing home...a facility for the elderly whose relatives couldn't...or wouldn't...care for them. Or who had no relatives left. Or who were destitute. I worked at one of those places...in DeKalb County...in the early Seventies. Worst job I ever had.

  6. There's a series on Prime Video called Loudermilk about the leader of an AA type group and the regular members. There are a number of actors in the show that have a variety of different disabilities. All are played with the same "normalcy" as the others. It is the most realistic portrayal of those with disabilities that I've seen. Coming from a family whose father was a WWII amputee, a brother who was totally blind, and a mother who suffered severe depression, I have a good frame of reference on this subject.


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