Tuesday, August 12, 2025

Bee expert judges honey

Dushanbe Tea House

      What is the word for when you talk about something and then it occurs? Coincidence? That sounds so technical. Karma? Closer. How about serendipity? That could be it.
       My brother and I were having dinner the Dushanbe Tea House in Boulder Sunday night, on what I'm thinking of our Goodbye Ma Tour of my parents' former home. The goal being to commemorate our mother's passage into the great beyond by going on great Colorado hikes, eating at restaurants she liked, and hanging out together.
      We were recounting things she used to say. 
      "You'll find it when you're not looking for it," is the first snippet my brother served up. Advice that I remember deeply resenting as a child, ripping the house apart, looking for some toy that I wanted now.
      There were a few others: "Call people up. You can't wait for them to call you because they never will." (We are people who like to talk, and, umm, let's say our friends and acquaintances are not queuing up to be on the other end of that phone line, listening to us go on and on).
      The very next morning, I logged into Facebook to check the Memories — I do that every day, as sometimes it offers up blog posts I want to share, for the benefit of all the readers who are new to the party. Monday provided a solid pair — "We're doomed, but that's no reason to get upset," a funny-yet-dire assessment of global warming from four years ago, and "Trump surges in the polls, again," a grim recognition that, vile as Donald Trump is, "the man will be president," not despite his numerous personal flaws, but because of them. It gives me a certain cold comfort in these grim days, watching through latticed fingers as our democracy is murdered, to realize I did what I could. 
     I was racing toward the bottom of the Memories list, feeling I'd already harvested enough, when there it was. A photo I'd been searching for the other day. I was writing about honey, and remembered a shot I'd taken at the Illinois State Fair in 2012. Platforms weren't quite as synched a dozen years ago, and I was down in Springfield. I popped it up on Facebook, but it somehow never found its way into my photos. 
     I'd really liked that picture — the lighting — and it bothered me that it had blown away in the data whirlwind. Now I found it, when I wasn't looking for it, labeled "Bee expert judges honey." I probably have his name in a notebook somewhere. I might find it, or, more likely, it might be gone forever. That happens to everything, eventually. 



12 comments:

  1. Spiritually this is referred to as the law of attraction

    When you speak something into being

    In my home my children referred to it as the magic mouth when I would cause this coincidence to occur

    As in dad has the magic mouth

    A deeper spiritual references manifestation though it doesn't seem to apply in this circumstance serendipity seems like a reasonable way to describe this phenomenon

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  2. And Carl Jung would call finding the photo of the beekeeper and his honey "synchronicity".

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    1. "With one breath, with one flow, you will know..."

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  3. What a lovely way to honor your mom. I really like it.

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  4. Citizens of the ramshackle Austro-Hungarian Empire had a saying: "The situation is hopeless but not serious."

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  5. Serendipity reigns! In my heart I'm certain I am at one with the universe in those moments. Then my head refers me back to the law of large numbers. Damn. Love the Goodbye Ma Tour. Mrs. Steinberg raised a couple of menschs to be sure. As did you and the current Mrs. Steinberg.

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  6. That's not quite what serendipity means. It means searching for something valuable and finding something totally different but equally or more valuable. Searching for gold and striking oil.

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  7. Serendipity is defined as "the occurrence and development of events by chance, in a happy or beneficial way." A happy accident, good luck, or fortuity. Another good word is "kismet"...which came from an Arabic/Turkish word that meant "fate" or "destiny"...something that was "meant to be." Was also the title of a very successful Broadway musical (and then a movie) in the mid-Fifties.

    Met my wife on a blind date, in 1965. We eventually broke up, married other people, and divorced both of them. We did not reunite as a couple until 1992. I like to call it "serendipity." She replies: "Hell, yeah! I'm still Sarah, and you're still Dipity!" Bingo.

    How lucky you are, Mister S, that you and your brother could embark on a Goodbye Ma Tour. In my mother's final days, she made me promise that my sibling and I would not become estranged after she was gone. "Don't worry, Mum, it won't happen," I assured her. But I knew better. Have not had a face-to-face with Sis since the funeral, in 2012. It is what it is.

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  8. Well, sorry, but it's hard for me to read this without getting a little warm and fuzzy. Thinking of two grown men taking time out of their busy lives and traveling in honor of their clearly beloved mom, is very touching. Not to mention, your brother and you having a relationship where such a trip is possible. As far as the newly discovered picture, of course that was your mom's handiwork; making sure her sons know she's still right beside you, guiding you and loving you

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    1. I like what you've said here, Carol!

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    2. Thanks. I meant it sincerely. I come from an Italian family who elevate grudge holding to an art form. So I'm totally in awe to see this kind of family love

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